What could be the next step in your relationship with HER parents? Invite her parents for the dinner with your family. Behave as you feel comfortable surrounded by her family, even if it is not so. Do not call someone from your relatives to this dinner, if you are not confident that everything will go well. Stick to the table etiquette. Respect the ideas and beliefs of the girlfriend`s parents. Try not dwell on the sensitive topics such as politics or religion, if you are not sure that they share your beliefs.
If you will talk to the girl’s parents in a polite manner, it may seems the success for you. Smile, but do it naturally. Silly smile will give your face the expression, as if you scoff at her parents.
Do not talk to your girlfriend`s parents about the details of your relationship with her. If you smoke, limit yourself and don`t show that you have the addiction to the cigarettes. Similarly, limit yourself in the alcohol, but do not hesitate to take a glass of wine at dinner (depending on the age).
How to impress the parents, especially your girlfriend`s father?
To impress the mother of your girlfriend, you need to listen with a straight face her monologues, to remember all important and not family dates, but the main thing is to be a man of the her “little daughter`s dreams”.
Do you think this list will work to win the favor of the your girlfried`s father? Certainly not!
№ 1. Inspire the confidence
Her father knows that one day his daughter will go from the custody. And he needs to be confident that he can trust you and his little princess will be okay. Your task is to prove your reliability even in the small things. Be punctual: do not be late for a family dinner or a joint trip to the cinema. Prove your financial stability. If you are going somewhere with him in a car, in any case, do not break the rules. And do not forget to buckle up.
№ 2. Respect the traditions
For the older generation there is nothing more important than family values. You should mention how you respect and love your parents. How much they gave you, and how much you are thankful to them for everything. It is also good to say that your beloved has become so clever and beautiful largely thanks to her father.
And do not forget to make it clear that it is important to you approval on her`s father part of your legitimate union with his daughter.
№ 3. Listen carefully
Give the person a chance to tell once again about his adventures of two decades ago. Even when his family roll their eyes “in a horror” from the first, so familiar phrase, but you have not heard it yet! Provoke him to talk. Who knows, maybe you will hear something really funny.
№ 4. Share his interests, look for the topics of the conversation
The main thing is not assent in the stupid or flattering way, but achieve the full communion of mutually interesting items. Avoid the stereotypes to discuss the men’s standard issues (cars, football), he can perfectly talk about these things with his colleagues. Surprise him! To find out from your girlfriend, what fascinated her father. Oh, there are a lots of options! The next time you will meet him tell everything about the interesting topic what you found on the Internet before you came. Believe me, he’ll be delighted.
№ 5. Control yourself
Of course, he likes that you love his daughter, but he doesn`t like when you demonstrate it rapidly. Be considerate in the manifestation of the “intimate” relationship with your girlfriend in a front of her father. Your task is to look humble young man, not a passionate, hot macho. Of course, if she embrace you by herself, do not bounce like it`s a fire, but do not let this touch too far.
№ 6. Be an adult
Of course, in the all grown men remain the boys manners. Her father is no an exception. But you only have to hide carefully the fact that you too. Behave maturely. Avoid the social behavior with her parents, for which your mother would have been awkward.
№ 7. Be a gentleman
Of course, we do not ask you to be overly pretentious. Still, the basic rules of the etiquette is better to observe. Your task is to look well-mannered young man with good manners, while being “mortality”.
№ 8. Observe the distance
Be natural and do not hesitate to talk to her father, like man to man, but still respect his superiority. Familiarity is not allowed.
You know that man is inherently not so candid as their beautiful halves, so do not overload him with the compliments to him, his wife and daughter. Your task is to approach gradually, without overplaying and do not boosting the events.
№ 9. Present the gifts
It is a difficult task. First, the gift should be a purely male, and secondly, to consider the interests of the parent. Ideally, it must be something that you can use together. For example, in the countryside. Our options – beer, wine, DVD, set for the car`s care (first, make sure that he has a car).
№ 10. Consult with him
Trust to his life experience. Fathers, like all men, love to share their experience. And even if you do not follow his advice, her dad will have the feeling that, albeit indirectly, he still affects the life of his daughter. Start standing with the neutral questions – family or career. Harmless topics – where to spend a vacation, buy a TV, how to explain to your boss that he was wrong. But to the question, what to do if you invested all money in the bursting of the family business, or what to do with a genital itching, should never reach.
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